Anger can be described as a strong emotional response to displeasure or antagonism. That seems like a very neat and clinical definition for a very powerful emotion that can seem to, at times, come out of nowhere.  We already discussed Types Of Anger. It’s important to also know the cause, how to cope and how to keep it all together.

Perhaps the best way to understand anger is to look at some of its primary causes. For example, consider:

Frustration: Waiting in a long line is a form of frustration (not getting what you want) that can lead to anger.

Hurt: Some people use anger to cover up deep feelings of hurt.

Annoyance: Annoyance can occur when people are deterred from their plans. For example, you finally get the day off from work and fully intend to spend the day lounging and reading a good book, but then a pipe in your house bursts. Obviously, you have to immediately attend to that problem, and your plans? Well, they’re now out the window.

Disappointment: Expecting one thing and getting another can cause anger.

 

Coping with Anger

While it’s true that we all have a different anger style, it helps to remember that anger is a universal emotion; everyone expresses it differently, but everyone “experiences” it. These tips can help cool you down when you’re hot under the collar:

  • Take a few minutes to calm down before discussing the problem. This does not mean you should ruminate during the “time-out” period.
  • Be assertive, not aggressive when making your points. Express yourself firmly, but do not insult the other person.
  • Talk it over with a friend before you confront the person you are angry with.
  • Try to find the humor in the situation.
  • Do something physical to channel your energy.
  • Go work on a hobby for a little while. If you love to garden or build model airplanes, do that. Engaging in an enjoyable activity can help keep you calm.

Putting It All Together

There are many different types of anger, but people are much more fluid in their personalities than these categories might suggest. This is why it is not unusual to find yourself identifying with one or more of these categories. No matter where you happen to fall within the spectrum, employing some of the coping strategies will help.

Also, it’s important to remember that anger serves best when it’s channeled into something constructive. Thinking in this new way can open up a whole new world of possibilities